Amy Roullier is a British writer and author of Silent Reflections of a Fragile Heart. Through her blog, she challenges the negative stereotypes surrounding being single, while candidly sharing her experiences with mental health, personal losses, and the complex, often misunderstood realities of adulthood.
People say to embrace your thirties, as your thirties are when life truly begins. It’s a more empowered age than your twenties, being older, wiser and more experienced. You should feel at ease, you should feel comfortable. By now, you should know yourself, and know what you are doing and where you are headed. But what if instead, you feel trapped in uncertainty and are questioning your very life’s purpose? …
Dr Miriam Kirmayer has spent the past decade researching the science of friendships. On her website she states, “Our friendships are one of the most important predictors of our health and happiness, but it turns out we don’t actually know or talk much about how we can make new friendships, keep and support existing friendships, or even end our friendships (when necessary) as adults.” She references that what really adds …
I’d always hoped intuition would kick in with age with a resolute answer to this question, but I feel more confused than ever about whether or not I want to have children. If you’d asked me a few years back at 35, I’d have responded with a fairly confident, ‘No’. It wasn’t so much a feeling that I didn’t want children, more that I’d never felt strongly enough up to …
Rewind back to 2016, when I was 31, going through a divorce, and newly single. I didn’t plan to be single in my 30s of course, but there it was. Singledom. Suddenly feeling so much more irreversible than it had in my teens or 20s. Would I be single forever? Who knew. But what I did learn, is that a lot of people don’t understand being single at all and …
I keep coming across articles that say things like, ‘What not to wear after 30,’ ‘How to dress your age’, ‘The new ‘rules’ of getting dressed in your 30s,’ ‘Things to stop wearing after…’ But seriously, who makes these rules? This is not the 1950s and I’m not dead yet, so I’m wearing whatever makes me feel good. Clothing that absolutely feels right to me. Because finally at 37, I …
I wasted a lot of time believing a lot of things in my 20s. Like that everything in my 20s was forever and that decisions were permanent and unchangeable. That how a boy treated me or how much he liked me, should represent my own levels of self-worth and confidence. That the career I chose at 25 would be the same as the one at 35 and there was no …
Recently I was driving to the South West of England alone, when two men in a van began honking and waving, trying to distract me along the motorway. They were smiling and laughing as they mirrored my speed. Maybe to them it was a joke. Possibly a desire to compliment me, show a little interest or a way of catcalling. I should be flattered, shouldn’t I? I’m nearly 40 years …
Being a single woman in her 30s is a weird place to be. There’s like a pariah status that comes with the territory. Other people have made my being single feel like a curse at times. Because a single woman, especially an older single woman, is apparently all kinds of crazy! And it’s for this very reason that I’ve sometimes struggled myself with the concept of being single. The single …
This is a guest blog by Lisa Holmes: Chances are, if you are reading this you could be in your 30’s and thinking, “No, I’ve never thought about the menopause.” I hadn’t either. Before all of this I had never even heard of the term peri-menopause. Until I was in my late 30’s and various symptoms and ailments (some very odd) were beginning to appear. And now I’ve just celebrated my …
I turned 37 this week and I am growing more concerned every day with this mid-30s awkward aging process. There are lines on my forehead that don’t go away anymore. Aches in my joints that didn’t niggle a year ago. Those faint smile wrinkles seem now permanently engrained even when I’m pulling a resting bitch face. And the glow of my once youthful skin is looking a little more haggard every …
