Amy Roullier is a British writer and author of Silent Reflections of a Fragile Heart. Through her blog, she challenges the negative stereotypes surrounding being single, while candidly sharing her experiences with mental health, personal losses, and the complex, often misunderstood realities of adulthood.
Online dating is an untamed beast— wild, unpredictable, emotionally unavailable. The possibility of a real connection feels more distant than ever. People treat people like objects, disposable, rejectable, “not real” enough to deserve respect. Mistreatment is rife, an ecosystem that thrives on disregard, tearing at your mental health, chipping away at your self-worth. It promises no guarantee of love, And only guarantees a heap of problems you never wanted, and …
I mean categorically, yes. That wasn’t a trick question. For anyone who’s spent any length of time in the world of online dating I know you’ll agree, it’s utter shit. I thought upgrading to digital was supposed to make life easier? But when it comes to online dating, it’s added a whole load of extra. And that extra is exhausting as fuck, self-depleting, terrible for any kind of self-worth, and …
Situationships. The whole, ‘We’ve been sleeping together for a while, may have romantic feelings towards one another, but definitely aren’t, together’. A situationship is a relationship that isn’t a relationship at all. They’ve become a dating trend for me over the past seven years and I’ve found it a pretty destructive situation. But apparently situationships are also a post covid dating movement. Dating app Hinge, found that a third of …
I’m really over dating. Not just slightly deterred or a little pessimistic but totally, resolutely out. Earlier this year an Ex from two and a half years ago knocked on my door. No pre-warning text message. Actually turned up on my doorstep live and in person. He’d driven forty miles, sat for twenty minutes in his car stressing about what would happen when I answered (and whether I even still …
After six years of dating with nothing to show for all that effort, I’ve had cause to question everything about who and also how I date. And I’ve realised something quite alarming. I’m a chameleon dater. “What the hell is a chameleon dater?” I hear you ask. Well, it’s where every person I date gets a slightly different version of me. I morph into more of what they want in …
Throughout the last six years of dating since my divorce, there has steadily been a worrying decrease in respecting of sexual boundaries in the bedroom. And that line of respect and trust appears to be becoming thinner as the years pass. Maybe it’s just me? I’m possibly attracting the wrong kind of men. Or rural Lincolnshire is a haven for men with a lack of respect for sexual boundaries? Because …
I thought that online dating in my 30s would be a colossal leap forward compared to my early 20s. So I went in expecting a tad more refined and sophisticated versus, ‘attempt to hold a drunken conversation with a stranger over deafening music in a sweaty, crowded bar’ scenarios. However, I was wrong. There’s no point reminiscing folks (trust me, you will) times have changed and not necessarily for the …
Searching for a real meaningful connection online has felt an impossible task when met with this constant affirmation that online dating is fundamentally shallow. Am I sounding a little negative? I’ve got a lot of reasons for that. Of course I’ll be happy to be proven wrong one day but until then, here’s a few thoughts from someone who didn’t have a clue what she went into when she started …
