Amy Roullier is a British writer and author of Silent Reflections of a Fragile Heart. Through her blog, she challenges the negative stereotypes surrounding being single, while candidly sharing her experiences with mental health, personal losses, and the complex, often misunderstood realities of adulthood.
Being a single woman in her 30s is a weird place to be. There’s like a pariah status that comes with the territory. Other people have made my being single feel like a curse at times. Because a single woman, especially an older single woman, is apparently all kinds of crazy! And it’s for this very reason that I’ve sometimes struggled myself with the concept of being single. The single …
After six years of dating with nothing to show for all that effort, I’ve had cause to question everything about who and also how I date. And I’ve realised something quite alarming. I’m a chameleon dater. “What the hell is a chameleon dater?” I hear you ask. Well, it’s where every person I date gets a slightly different version of me. I morph into more of what they want in …
I’ve been single for a while now and I have to say, it’s working out. And that’s such a big thing for me to say confidently. Because for a really long time, I’ve tried to avoid singledom at all costs. I have dated many, many people over the past six years, but the only way I’ve come to be truly happily single, is to take a step back from dating …
Throughout the last six years of dating since my divorce, there has steadily been a worrying decrease in respecting of sexual boundaries in the bedroom. And that line of respect and trust appears to be becoming thinner as the years pass. Maybe it’s just me? I’m possibly attracting the wrong kind of men. Or rural Lincolnshire is a haven for men with a lack of respect for sexual boundaries? Because …
Here’s a big truth about single life. On some days, I feel lonely. I’ve often written about how wonderful single life is and for the most part it really is, for so many reasons. But feeling lonely sometimes utterly sucks. I hate to admit that I feel lonely sometimes, because it is assumed that being single equates to constant loneliness. Which just to be clear, it isn’t and doesn’t. However, …
Are you deciding whether to have children or opt for a childfree lifestyle? Society often presumes that eventually you’ll make the choice to have children, that you will get there in the end. As if there really wasn’t a need to consider or a choice to be had at all. People expect children to be part and parcel of your life choices. But what if they’re not or you’re still …
When I entered my early thirties newly divorced and freshly single, being on my own seemed to carry this automatic notion that I was failing at life. I felt I should be miserable with my single situation because there seemed this instant pity the moment I told anyone that I was single in my thirties. All those sympathetic looks and, “Don’t worry, you’ll find someone soon,” style conversations started to …
I thought that online dating in my 30s would be a colossal leap forward compared to my early 20s. So I went in expecting a tad more refined and sophisticated versus, ‘attempt to hold a drunken conversation with a stranger over deafening music in a sweaty, crowded bar’ scenarios. However, I was wrong. There’s no point reminiscing folks (trust me, you will) times have changed and not necessarily for the …
Searching for a real meaningful connection online has felt an impossible task when met with this constant affirmation that online dating is fundamentally shallow. Am I sounding a little negative? I’ve got a lot of reasons for that. Of course I’ll be happy to be proven wrong one day but until then, here’s a few thoughts from someone who didn’t have a clue what she went into when she started …
