Empowering Poetry for the Single Soul

I spent nearly seven years of my thirties navigating an on-again, off-again relationship with being single. For much of that time, I convinced myself that my singleness was a choice — someone else’s, not my own. It felt like a burden I couldn’t shake, no matter how hard I tried.

I began to ask myself: where was I going wrong? In trying to figure it out, I realized that perhaps the issue was my perspective — the way I was viewing my singleness as a problem to fix. It wasn’t the status of being single that was the issue; it was how I was perceiving it.

Now, I’m not suggesting that you should love being single if you’re hoping to be in a relationship one day. But for me, something shifted when I started to get comfortable with being single, truly owning it, and not fearing time spent alone. It wasn’t about needing someone else to complete me; it was about finding peace and strength within myself.

Some of these pieces are captured in my book, Silent Reflections of a Fragile Heart, available now on Amazon. I hope these pieces offer you comfort, empowerment, and clarity in your own journey — whether you’re single by choice, circumstance, or somewhere in between. May they remind you that you’re not alone, and that your worth isn’t defined by your relationship status.

Self-Dating:

Self-Dating:
The how is never as important as the why.
Self-dating challenges you
to step outside your comfort zone,
helping you become comfortable
in your own company,
creating space for self-understanding.

Self-dating is a reminder:
you are a priority,
you are worth spending time with,
you are independent,
no longer co-dependent on anyone else.
You are responsible for your own needs.

Once you discover joy in being single
and in self-dating,
you won’t want to lose that feeling.

Defining Chapters

Being single is not merely a prelude; 
it can be your defining chapter. 
In this space, you discover 
who you are, 
who you can become— 
each moment shaping your story, 
not waiting for a partner, 
but embracing your own journey.

Self-Discovery

We are all searching to be found in one way or another.

Although I never considered that finding myself
might be the most important way
to be truly discovered.

Joy

I’ve loved many people, 
but loving myself 
has been my greatest joy.

Brave

Sometimes, they call me brave because I walk alone—
out in the world where everyone can see.

So brave, they say, as if solitude were a secret, to be kept private, to be hidden, wrapped in apology, shrouded in shame, never out in the open.

But why is being alone, brave?

Single and Over 30

If you’re single and over 30,
your friends and family may have different commitments.
They won’t always be able to join your plans
or do the things you want to do.

Your options:
wait for them to be ready,
or do nothing.
But the latter is like sitting in a waiting room
of your own making.

Embrace each day—
with or without company—
and live your life.
You don’t need someone tagging along
to enjoy your time.

I had all I ever needed

I transformed pieces of myself, 
yearning for your gaze, 
but your eyes drifted 
to distant horizons. 

In my quest for your recognition, 
I lost sight of who I was. 
But then, I turned to the mirror— 
there, I found my reflection, 
and with it, the warmth 
of love, compassion, and kindness. 

In that moment, I realized 
I had all I ever needed.

I may not be single forever

I may not be single forever
I will probably date again,
one day.
But right now,
in this moment,
I am happily single,
falling head over heels
in love with dating myself.
And every time
I think I might be ready
to open my heart to someone new,
I feel an even stronger pull
to keep focusing on myself,
pouring that love
into me.