I’ve spent much of my life navigating relationships—whether I was in them, searching for them, or trying to figure out how to move on from them. Along the way, I haven’t always made the best choices when it comes to who deserved my time and trust.
I’ve been married, divorced, tangled in toxic relationships, and caught up in friendships that weren’t as fulfilling as they should have been. Seven years of on-and-off dating in my thirties have brought more breakups than I can count, along with the loss of some friendships and the discovery of others. There have been highs, lows, repeats, and a few endings I’d rather forget. So, whatever you’re looking for, there’s likely a blog here that speaks to your experience.
Poetry for the Soul: Online Dating, An Untamed Beast
Online dating is an untamed beast— wild, unpredictable, emotionally unavailable. The possibility of a real connection feels more distant than ever. People treat people like objects, disposable, rejectable, "not real" …
When Does a Relationship Stop Being a Slow Burn and Start Being a Smokescreen?
Ah, the good old slow burner. Time and again I've sat eagerly awaiting a ping on my phone with that text, the one I’d hoped for, reassured that the person …
My Definition Of Love Used To Be This:
My definition of love used to be this: Love meant giving everything. Losing yourself completely and willingly. Love was sacrifice. If you die, we die together. Love was a fairy-tale where nothing …
I Forgive You. But I Do Not Want You Back
You might be reaching out for forgiveness.You might be testing the waters,wondering if I could forgive enoughto let you back in.But I am empowered by the act of no action,the …
When The Person in Your Situationship Wakes Up Ready For a Label. But Not With You
I’ve been in my fair share of situationships over the past seven years, because apparently they are on trend. Lucky me! And the most painful thing about those situationships, has …
Promoting Self-Priority In A Relationship Is Fundamental To Wellbeing
Are you putting your partner and your relationship, ahead of you? I used to be that person who put my partner on a pedestal and prioritised my relationship above all …
Saying No to Social Engagements is Totally Okay
I don’t know about you, but for the last few years I’ve found too much going on in my social calendar to feel really heavy. Stressful, even. I didn’t practise …
Is being open to new friendships as you get older important to wellbeing?
Dr Miriam Kirmayer has spent the past decade researching the science of friendships. On her website she states, “Our friendships are one of the most important predictors of our health …
I’m prepping for the end of my relationship before it’s even really begun
If you are a regular reader of my blogs, you’ll know this. Historically, me and relationships are total train wrecks. I’ve spent nearly seven years in the land of single …
Here’s to all the amazing women we know. May we know them. May we be them.
Here’s to women supporting women. The ones building others up and genuinely delighting in their joys. Here’s to the ones being a safe space for their friends, and helping carry …
Online dating: Do We Need to Change The Game?
I mean categorically, yes. That wasn't a trick question. For anyone who’s spent any length of time in the world of online dating I know you’ll agree, it’s utter shit. …
Valentine’s Day – Does anyone really enjoy it?
Valentine’s Day is here once again, the day generally associated with lover’s celebrating their affection. But did you also know that this commercially designated day of love has actually been …
Do words have the power to change people?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the power of our words. Like how the negative ones can have a harmful effect, if someone said, ‘I hate you’ or ‘you …
I want more in real life connection, something I’ll try for more of in 2023
Recently I read an article from Annie Mac on the ‘insidious nature of WhatsApp’ as she describes it, and how it’s likely the cause of her feelings of disconnection from …
Learning To Let Go Of Unhealthy Friendships
It’s really difficult when you realize that you need to walk away from someone. It’s even worse when that person is a friend. Letting go of unhealthy friendships might be …
The Problem with Disney’s Prince Charming
As a kid, my sisters and I spent hours watching Disney films over and over. I still love them so much that even at nearly 40 I’m spending a Sunday …
Death to Situationships, Because I’m Fully Over The Situation
Situationships. The whole, 'We’ve been sleeping together for a while, may have romantic feelings towards one another, but definitely aren’t, together’. A situationship is a relationship that isn’t a relationship …
I’m Really Over Dating. Not Slightly Deterred Or A Little Pessimistic But Totally, Resolutely Out
I'm really over dating. Not just slightly deterred or a little pessimistic but totally, resolutely out. Earlier this year an Ex from two and a half years ago knocked on …
If I had to heal from you, I’m absolutely not letting you back into my space
I’ve spent the past year concentrating on self-care. Setting boundaries, making decisions that are healthy and not harmful, practicing a little self-love and meaningful mindfulness. I’ve been reclaiming (and establishing) …
Confessions of a Chameleon Dater: I’ll Be Anything You Want Me To Be
After six years of dating with nothing to show for all that effort, I’ve had cause to question everything about who and also how I date. And I’ve realised something …
What to Expect When Going Through a Divorce in Your 30s
If the average age for people going through a divorce is 30 years old, why is it that handling a divorce in your 30s feels like such an incredibly lonely process? Aged 30 I went through a divorce and it was tough. Aside from watching the money drain from my account …
Recovering from a Toxic Relationship: Taking Back Control Of Me
I left a decade long toxic relationship six years ago, and whilst walking away was a massive step towards regaining control of myself, I still wasn't anywhere close to being fully me again. I'd thought regaining control was just about leaving and in many ways it was. But it was …
Trying to Keep My Dignity Post Breakup
At 37, I've been through enough breakups to last a lifetime. Seriously, it's kind of depressing. Whatever the situation or reason for a relationship ending, breakups suck hard. It's why self-healing, rebuilding and repairing is so important to finding peace. Yet hard to put into practise I know, as I've …
Moving On: 8 Steps To Recovery After A Breakup
Recently I went through a breakup, which totally sucked. At 36, I've become what I can only describe as a begrudged expert in moving on from the latest relationship catastrophe. So how do you recover after someone breaks up with you? Moving on, healing, keeping your dignity and recovery after …
10 Signs Of A Toxic Relationship You Need To Know
According to recent figures, approximately 29% of women have experienced physical, sexual, or psychological abuse during their lifetime, with psychological abuse being most common among women in their mid-20s to early 30s. Unfortunately, I can relate to that 29% as I spent nearly a decade in a toxic relationship. At …
If I had to heal from you, I’m absolutely not letting you back into my space
I’ve spent the past year concentrating on self-care. Setting boundaries, making decisions that are healthy and not harmful, practicing a little self-love and meaningful mindfulness. I’ve been reclaiming (and establishing) a strong self-concept. However, the return of the Ex always feel like the ultimate test to that kind of inner …
The Problem with Disney’s Prince Charming
As a kid, my sisters and I spent hours watching Disney films over and over. I still love them so much that even at nearly 40 I’m spending a Sunday afternoon unashamedly watching Encanto … again. But the new era of Disney has a very different narrative to the ones …
Learning To Let Go Of Unhealthy Friendships
It’s really difficult when you realize that you need to walk away from someone. It’s even worse when that person is a friend. Letting go of unhealthy friendships might be necessary, but that doesn't mean it isn't painful. And if you’re like me, someone who likes to avoid confrontation at …
