Amy Roullier is a British writer and author of Silent Reflections of a Fragile Heart. Through her blog, she challenges the negative stereotypes surrounding being single, while candidly sharing her experiences with mental health, personal losses, and the complex, often misunderstood realities of adulthood.
Online dating is an untamed beast— wild, unpredictable, emotionally unavailable. The possibility of a real connection feels more distant than ever. People treat people like objects, disposable, rejectable, “not real” enough to deserve respect. Mistreatment is rife, an ecosystem that thrives on disregard, tearing at your mental health, chipping away at your self-worth. It promises no guarantee of love, And only guarantees a heap of problems you never wanted, and …
Ah, the good old slow burner. Time and again I’ve sat eagerly awaiting a ping on my phone with that text, the one I’d hoped for, reassured that the person I’m dating is interested. It’s a tiny glimmer of hope, that a thing might lead somewhere. They’ll get there, eventually I reasoned with myself; if I just gave them more time, was patient and stayed the course, sooner or later, …
I’ve been in my fair share of situationships over the past seven years, because apparently they are on trend. Lucky me! And the most painful thing about those situationships, has been them waking up ready for a label, but not with me. Was I merely the warm up before the main event? The one who got them there, got them prepped for commitment, ready for something more but not the …
It wasn’t until I went single no mingle, that I realized how much dating had become an important part of my conversations with people. And by making who I was dating a highly discussed topic, I had inadvertently sent the message to myself that nothing else was more conversation worthy than this.
And if nothing else was as interesting, then nothing I had to say that wasn’t about when or who the next date was lined up with, mattered much.
If you are a regular reader of my blogs, you’ll know this. Historically, me and relationships are total train wrecks. I’ve spent nearly seven years in the land of single and dating, mostly never quite getting to full on relationship status. Occasionally they got a title, yet with no actual commitment behind it. So trust in relationships, has been difficult for me. But here’s the thing. I’ve met someone. We’re …
I mean categorically, yes. That wasn’t a trick question. For anyone who’s spent any length of time in the world of online dating I know you’ll agree, it’s utter shit. I thought upgrading to digital was supposed to make life easier? But when it comes to online dating, it’s added a whole load of extra. And that extra is exhausting as fuck, self-depleting, terrible for any kind of self-worth, and …
Situationships. The whole, ‘We’ve been sleeping together for a while, may have romantic feelings towards one another, but definitely aren’t, together’. A situationship is a relationship that isn’t a relationship at all. They’ve become a dating trend for me over the past seven years and I’ve found it a pretty destructive situation. But apparently situationships are also a post covid dating movement. Dating app Hinge, found that a third of …
I’m really over dating. Not just slightly deterred or a little pessimistic but totally, resolutely out. Earlier this year an Ex from two and a half years ago knocked on my door. No pre-warning text message. Actually turned up on my doorstep live and in person. He’d driven forty miles, sat for twenty minutes in his car stressing about what would happen when I answered (and whether I even still …
After six years of dating with nothing to show for all that effort, I’ve had cause to question everything about who and also how I date. And I’ve realised something quite alarming. I’m a chameleon dater. “What the hell is a chameleon dater?” I hear you ask. Well, it’s where every person I date gets a slightly different version of me. I morph into more of what they want in …
I’ve been single for a while now and I have to say, it’s working out. And that’s such a big thing for me to say confidently. Because for a really long time, I’ve tried to avoid singledom at all costs. I have dated many, many people over the past six years, but the only way I’ve come to be truly happily single, is to take a step back from dating …
